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Are you a Platonic or Coparent?

Are you a Platonic or Coparent?

Our perception of “family” is changing as society’s attitudes towards love, marriage, and parenting constantly change. We are learning that parents’ marital status, gender, and relationship status are less critical when raising children as family structures become more diverse.

Parents who love and support their children are what they need the most. It doesn’t matter if the parents are in a relationship or a romance with each other. As long as they have solid co-parenting relationships, it is not essential to how well their children will do.

Platonism is a new trend in child-rearing that emphasizes this idea. Platonism, also known as co-parenting, is a method where two or more people agree to raise their children together. We are finding that children raised in nontraditional parenting styles can be just as well-adjusted as those presented in happy married households.

An alternative arrangement

The LGBTQ community was the first to adopt platonic parenting. Until recently, same-gender couples could not legally marry, and there wasn’t a court system that would make rules about post-breakup parenting. After a split, they had to devise innovative parenting plans.

Platonism has become more popular among married couples who want to raise their children after divorce. By maintaining an amicable and cooperative relationship–sometimes even cohabitating–a team can not only spare their children the trauma of divorce, but they may also find a much healthier arrangement for them. Couples who remain unhappy married for the sake of their children often find that the account is more detrimental to the entire family than a divorce.

Platonism is becoming more popular as more parents choose to have children together, even if they are not in a relationship.

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Parenting partners

Spiritual parenting is especially appealing for those going through their child-rearing years without a partner. Platonism can be an excellent option for people interested in becoming parents but don’t want to have a romantic partner or haven’t yet found the right one. Although it is possible to raise a child by yourself, the responsibility of raising children is a huge one that will last a lifetime. Some people are looking for a partner to help them manage the immense demands of parenting.

Many websites specialize in platonic parenting matchmaking for those unable to find a compatible co-parent within their existing social network. Sites such as FamilyByDesign,, and Modality allow prospective parents to meet to form a family. These arrangements typically involve artificial insemination, in-vitro fertilization, and the subsequent raising of the child in a platonic relationship. While some co-parents share custody and live apart, others live under the same roof as a traditional family.

Some cases involve three or more parents sharing the responsibility of raising children. With today’s legal frameworks, people of all sexual orientations and genders can enter into many platonic parenting relationships.

Platonism might sound unusual and controversial, but it is only natural that parents want to be a team effort when raising children.

Planned Parenthood

Like all parenting arrangements, Platonism requires trust, communication, and planning. All parties must agree on a solid legal agreement governing financial obligations and living arrangements, which is the first step in forming a new partnership.

You will also need to discuss how to handle romantic relationships and include platonic partners in family gatherings. Talking about the arrangements with your children and family members is essential, so everyone knows what this new life looks like.

Establish a legal foundation

Many essential agreements must be made. Seeking legal advice before starting a platonic parenting arrangement is vital. We are experts in helping with nontraditional partnerships. We offer many estate planning tools to help you define your legal rights and responsibilities.

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